These days, I get asked quite a few questions about which is better, self-esteem or ego. As you may be aware, when it comes to our sense of self-worth, the winner takes all. It seems that nobody is really above the ego. However, it is interesting that many people, when pressed to make this decision, will say they prefer the latter. Why is that? What are the benefits of having high self-esteem or the ability to set goals and be successful?
The answer to that question, unfortunately, is not simple. It is complicated by the fact that each person is unique and their personal experiences and the challenges they have faced and overcome play a role. It may also be true that these factors don’t always change. So, from one perspective, someone who has achieved great success is likely to be a bit egotistical.
On the other hand, from another point of view, someone who is struggling might be more ego-centric. This person would say that it is the journey rather than the destination that make a person successful. If you look at those who have succeeded and talked about their journey, you’ll find similarities in their descriptions of how they felt as they moved towards their goal. It wasn’t only overcoming obstacles but learning from failures, dealing with setbacks, overcoming doubt and learning from failures along the way that enabled them to succeed. Self-esteem vs. ego are really just another way to say that we are on a journey of growth.
In order to truly succeed in life, most people require that they believe that they can. This is where the concept of self-esteem or building a positive self-image begins. We all know that there are people who believe they are absolutely perfect, even to the point of over-exaggerating. The people who are realistic in their thinking and expect to achieve success, have a higher self-image and will feel better about themselves.
So what do these two concepts mean when it comes to achieving success? Well, to answer this question, you first must define them. Your ego is the thing that controls your reality and your world view. This is the “I” that you think about, judge, criticize, and give yourself credit for. And if you are in a situation where you are judging or criticizing others, your self-esteem will be challenged because you will be giving yourself low esteem.
On the other hand, self-esteem is the thing that allows you to view things objectively and take responsibility for your own actions. If you don’t have self-esteem, it is very easy to blame others for your own troubles or even give yourself excuses for why you didn’t do a good enough job. Your self-esteem allows you to accept responsibility for your own action. And when you are able to accept responsibility for your actions, you become much more effective at what you do. You become more efficient at getting the job done and actually enjoy it instead of just dreading it.
Both of these concepts are important if you want to achieve success. Self-esteem will help you create goals that you can accomplish. And if you use the concept of self-esteem correctly, you can use it to make yourself believe that you CAN achieve any goal. If you set yourself up with a vision of yourself working toward a certain goal and using the concept of self-esteem to encourage you, then you will be much more likely to really persevere in whatever it is you want to achieve. You will have the confidence to really get something done because you have high self-esteem.
And both of these concepts are important if you are going to have success in life. Self-esteem is important because it gives you a clear idea of what is possible to achieve. And it gives you a sense of motivation to reach that goal because you already know that you can do it. And if you have high self-esteem, then you don’t need to undermine your efforts by constantly beating yourself up about not being good enough. You know you are good enough and you don’t need to be told otherwise.