In relationship circles, there are two common theories on the nature of archetypes. The first is that all human beings have similar archetypes which are either protective or sexual in nature. The second is that these archetypes have different gender forms which then in turn create various feminine and masculine types. This is an extremely simplified explanation but hopefully it gets you thinking about your own personal relationships.
Now obviously neither of these theories is correct. Each relationship has its own individual archetypes and they are not dictated by gender. Also, these archetypes are not always identical for each person. Therefore one may be a “chievous” shadow while another is a timid and quiet soul.
The most popular theory on archetypes is the sexual/romantic archetype. This is particularly popular with women as their own sexual identity is often an important part of their self-image. This makes them keen to define and express themselves through their relationships. This does not mean however that they are not frightened of intimacy. On the contrary, they thrive on it. As long as it remains a separate concept from their intimate lives and is instead linked to a work related, business activities or career focus, women are perfectly happy to let the cat out of the bag when it comes to sharing their deepest secrets.
When it comes to sharing their past experiences, most people will hesitate to do so. For them, keeping their past concealed is often more painful and uncomfortable than revealing it. It is important though, if you are in a relationship, to share these archetypes with your partner to give them some perspective and make them see how they are similar to one another in certain ways. Knowing this, it then becomes easier for you to create a loving and fulfilling relationship.
When it comes to understanding these archetypes, you need to think about what your life was like before your current relationship started. Often, women have developed these archetypes throughout their lives. In order to understand where you may be going wrong, it is important to understand where you are now. If your current partner is not taking you for granted or is constantly being told how great she is, you need to work on improving yourself and the relationship.
By doing this, you may find that you have developed an inferiority complex due to your perception of yourself and your environment. You may also find that you have grown to resent someone in your life who has treated you unfairly. This may be due to past events that you did not like, such as your mother’s divorce or previous partner’s neglect. In order to solve these problems, you need to work on your own self-esteem and understanding of how you should be treated.
Understanding these archetypes is vital to solving your relationship problems. Most people simply don’t realise that we are all basically the same inside. Women tend to have deeper feelings and need much more space than men do. Knowing this, they will often want to expand their relationship beyond the traditional platonic relationship and may start to explore the more intimate forms of intimacy such as friendship or a more lasting relationship.
When you understand the female mind, you will realise that you need to allow her space to achieve whatever it is she wants. You need to listen to her and pay attention to what she is trying to say. This will make it easier for you to communicate with her and open up discussions on things that both of you could potentially change. If you keep on listening, you will likely understand each other’s needs and realise that you need to do the same.