Do you have the same low self-esteem and lack of confidence that I do? Well, I know many of you do, as this has been a problem for so many years for so many people. The truth is that there is only one person who can decide your life – YOU! The rest is totally up to you, but I’m going to show you how to improve your self-esteem today.
Have you ever felt like an outcast or were avoided by everyone? This happens more often than you may think, and it affects us in a variety of ways – physically as well as mentally. And no matter what the circumstances are that you find yourself in – whether you’re feeling confident or not, it will always affect you one way or another.
Many of us feel that being confident is what we should have, and that’s just wrong. There are so many more things in life that we could be proud of that have absolutely nothing to do with being confident or not. And don’t get me wrong – being confident can certainly come with its own set of problems. But the important thing here is to understand that self-esteem is an emotion, and feelings can change quickly and wildly. It’s easy to lose our self-confidence when times get tough, but it is also easy to pick ourselves back up and become confident again.
So, I want to talk to you about how you can regain that one aspect of self-esteem that are missing, and make a huge difference in your life. First of all, let’s define what self-esteem is. You can think of self-esteem as the level of “confidence” that you have about your own abilities. This is not the same as thinking that you are guaranteed to succeed or think that you are untouchable.
Self-esteem is grounded in the reality that you were able to succeed in the past, no matter what. Now you must evaluate your own past success. What kind of behaviors did you use to get there? Did you study hard? Did you have a mentor who was there for you? These are all things that you need to examine if you want to rebuild your self-esteem.
One other element that is critical to building your self-esteem and confidence is your attitude. You have to believe in yourself – and you have to believe that others will like you as well. Confidence and self-esteem are two very different things, and it’s very easy to build one up one direction while the other goes down the drain. If you start out right, you’ll always end up there.
One thing that I do to help increase my self-esteem and confidence is to write down my goals. When I set goals, I write them down on paper in big bold letters. I also have a specific time line for each goal. For example, I want to build my credit score by three points by the end of next year. That means I need to make at least five hundred calls each month to new potential customers – not only to buy more stuff, but also just to grow my credit.
This way I know exactly what I’m working towards and I can focus all my energy on that. After I’ve written down my goals, I then go over them in detail with a fine-toothed comb. I ask myself questions like: Do I really need this? Is this realistic? I ask these kinds of questions, and I work on my self-esteem vs. confidence each and every day.