How do you measure what’s called “self-esteem?” In my opinion, there’s no perfect answer to this question. I believe that each of us were created in the image and likeness of God, in a divine light. There is no exact place for self-esteem. Some people call it “ego,” but it really isn’t, so let’s call it self-respect.
When I use the word ego, I’m not talking about a lack of respect for ourselves or a desire for our own special glory. I’m talking about the knowing that you are unique and your gifts and talents are supremely important. That you are, in fact, “the One,” and that your good fortune is to be chosen by God to be His vessel and receive His blessings, strengths, and blessings for a lifetime. I don’t think there’s any such thing as a “best self” or a “best ego.”
No one can “know” who they are better than anyone else. Everyone has their own little voice, and everyone has a different expression. So, no one is better than another. No one is “the One.” Self-esteem simply means “I am a very special person deserving of love.”
Think of self-esteem as a way of appraising yourself. We are always surrounded by people telling us what we should feel, think, or do. Yet, for most of us, the final say on our lives is made up of what we decide to do with our own self-respect – how we see ourselves. How we decide to treat ourselves and others.
If you think about ego and self-respect, they’re the same thing, right? Wrong! When we talk about ego, we typically refer to that reserve fund of strength that we have deep inside us. It’s the “I” that decides what we do and how we’ll react to a situation.
The strength of self-esteem is usually where it all begins. If we don’t feel worthy of love or respect from others, it’s pretty much impossible for us to feel good about ourselves. So, for someone to be better than someone else, that person must earn that love and respect first. And in order to earn it, you first need to be worthy of it.
The funny thing about ego is that it always leads someone down a never-ending path of self-justification. If someone makes a negative comment about you, your ego will quickly compare you to other negative people in society and will try to justify the negativity. When you start believing these self-defeating thoughts, you can actually convince yourself to do things that you don’t really want to do in life – just to prove how “great” you are. Self-esteem will then lead to an unshakeable faith in your abilities and your ability to make a difference.
However, if you let your ego take control too often, you’ll eventually start believing false beliefs, and this will only serve to sabotage your efforts. So the key here is not to allow ego to control you. Make sure you focus on your goals and work to achieve them. Only then will your self-esteem rise.
If you have a strong sense of self-confidence, your life will be much better than someone with low self-esteem. Self-confidence is the cornerstone of a positive self-image and the cornerstone of success. In fact, some psychologists say that self-esteem is responsible for the quality of life that someone enjoys. In other words, if you believe that you’re worthy of good things in life, you will most likely feel happy, fortunate, and confident.
So how do you cultivate self-esteem? First, remember that you don’t have to follow the crowd. You don’t have to be like everyone else – and being different won’t make you less of a person.
Instead, spend some time thinking about what you want from life, and then doing everything in your power to get it. This may mean that you’ll have to try hard and strive to achieve what you want. It also means that you’ll have to ignore certain things – and embrace others. You’ll find that when you do this enough times, your ego will allow you to reach higher levels of self-confidence and actually feel better about yourself.
Finally, you must remember that if you are already successful, there’s no reason to allow your ego to keep you from pursuing your dreams. You can go after your goals no matter how big or small they are. As long as you realize that you have the ability to do great things, you can go after them. The bottom line is that it doesn’t matter whether you are rich or poor, male or female, old or young. Life is yours to enjoy, and your happiness depends on the level of self-esteem vs. ego you’ve created for yourself. When you take the time to focus on who you are and what you have to offer, you will find that you can live a much better life.