What affects self-esteem most can be traced back to early childhood experiences and our perceptions of how we were, or aren’t, supposed to act. If we were taught that we are supposed to be docile and submissive, then we are. If we were taught that we are supposed to be strong and self-confident, then we are. If we were taught that we are supposed to be aggressive and dominant, then we are. We are the sum of our past and our current perceptions of ourselves.
So if a child grows up feeling inadequate and not good enough, they will carry these feelings with them into adulthood. They will decide that they need to be bigger, stronger, and better in order to achieve their goals and achieve success in life. When they finally reach a point in their lives where they feel like they have succeeded in all areas of their life and can now handle all of the negative ways that other people talk about them behind their back, they start doubting their own ability to do it and will do anything in their power to prove to themselves that they are good enough. Over time, their self-esteem begins to drop and they start believing these harsh words.
So what affects self-esteem most as you get older? First, it is your job as an adult to change those perceptions and beliefs. You can’t let them convince you that you are worthless, incompetent, and unable to do anything. Once you get that message out to yourself, you will want to work very hard to prove to yourself that you can do it.
What affects self-esteem most as you get older is becoming sensitive to the opinions of others. As you get older, you may begin to doubt what they are saying about you. Because you feel bad about yourself, you start doubting your own abilities, and that can lead to a series of self-criticism that will build up until you feel like there is no way for you to get better. Once you have reached a point where you feel bad about yourself for something that you could do about, then you are in the “zone” where you are not changing anything about yourself.
The maturity principle says that we are all satisfied with what we have. This may be a hard concept for some people to understand. It states that we are not satisfied with our physical appearance; however, this is just a way that we measure our worth. We can’t change the physical appearance of our bodies, but we can change the way we feel about our bodies. If you have low self-esteem, then you will have low self-confidence, and if you have high self-esteem then you will have high self-confidence. These two go hand-in-hand.
One of the most detrimental things that affects self-esteem is having a history of being negatively treated. It is difficult to learn new things when someone is negatively treating you, and it is even more difficult to change those negative ways of thinking. These habits are hard to unlearn, but if you are able to remove them from your mind, then you will begin to feel better about yourself. These habits like accepting rejection and bullying hurt our self-esteem because they tell us that we aren’t good enough, that we are not worthy of love, or that we shouldn’t be happy.
Accepting self-judgment and criticism is one of the most difficult things for people with low self-esteem do. People who are in low self-esteem refer to their low self-image as a burden. This burden carries with it feelings of guilt and unhappiness. High self-esteem refers to the feeling that you are worthy of love, that you are worthwhile and valuable.
What affects self-esteem in the social domain is our interaction with others. We tend to evaluate the actions and reactions of others according to our own expectations about how we want to be treated. The consequences of our own actions can have lasting effects on our lives. These effects can be seen in the way that we treat ourselves in private, in the way that we behave in public, and in the way that we judge other people’s behavior. If we are internally motivated to look favorably on ourselves, then we will be motivated to be physically attractive, to maintain high physical appearance, and to engage in healthy physical behavior – which all affects self-esteem.