What is self-esteem? Self-esteem is a person’s subjective assessment of his or her worth. It differs from the attitude one has toward themselves, as it regards their abilities and flaws, than how they view themselves in the others’ eyes.
How do we know that we are worthy of things? What is self-worth? Well, there are many things that we think we are worth, but how do we know it? Self-worth encompasses various attitudes about oneself and also other psychological states, including confidence, achievement, happiness, pessimism, and guilt.
What is self-confidence? It is a state in which we are at ease with whom we are. We don’t feel insecure when around people who are better looking or more successful than ourselves. Most people are self-conscious and have low self-confidence.
What is self-esteem then? Self-esteem is one’s ability to put oneself in a favorable light and see oneself in a positive light, as compared to others. It’s the ability to be confident in oneself. When a person is self-conscious about himself, he tends to lower his self-image. This can negatively impact one’s relationships, career, and even ones with family members or friends.
How does one get this kind of state? It comes naturally with good parental and educational support and guidance. A good way to enhance this is by following set of rules or behavioral patterns, which have been proven effective by many researchers, from David Norton to John Gottman. It is a learned skill so there’s nothing we can’t learn from others. If we feel insecure about our appearance, for instance, we can go out and change your hairstyle, wear different clothes, and even try on new makeup, all to make you feel better about yourself. It works!
One of the biggest reasons why we have low self-esteem is that we focus too much on how others perceive us. We get so upset when we don’t do as well as someone else who seems to do better. We don’t like comparing ourselves to others. It leads us to think that we need to cock our snout at everyone and then start to have a self-depreciation affair. In short, we start to think that we aren’t good enough…and then start to believe it ourselves.
There are ways we can change this pattern. One of those ways is to use affirmations – specifically, those which motivate us to action. Once we know what we should feel like, then we can begin to repeat the affirmation to ourselves as often as we can.
Another method is to take small steps that increase our self-worth. For instance, instead of immediately thinking that we are worthless, start doing things that make us feel better about ourselves. Doing something small such as fixing your car might not seem like much, but when we feel better about fixing it, then that’s what we focus on. That is one of the fastest ways to build up our self-esteem.
One of the things that is most important is that we accept ourselves the way we are. If we don’t accept our flaws, then we aren’t going to be able to improve. If we are constantly telling ourselves that we are worthless, then we aren’t going to stop. If we tell ourselves that we are smart, then we aren’t. If we are told by others that we act stupidly or that we are clumsy, then we aren’t going to accept it either. If we accept ourselves the way we are now – with flaws and all – then we will find more reason to improve and become better.
Why is self-esteem so important? As previously mentioned, it is a self-evaluation process. We evaluate ourselves based on what we see and hear about ourselves in the media and from other people. This is not a healthy way to assess ourselves because we are accepting what we already know to be true. What needs to be done is to try to get rid of our old beliefs and replace them with new ones. By changing what we believe and replacing them with new ones, we will be able to better know ourselves.
One of the most common beliefs that people have, especially as they get older – is that they are no longer as good as they used to be. This is a common belief among those who are overweight – it is natural for them to think that they are no longer in shape because they are overweight. It is human nature to worry that you are no longer in shape, this is a means to an end and nothing more. The best way to increase your self-esteem is to learn to love your body – don’t worry about the way you look.
If you have a low self-esteem, the best thing you can do for yourself is to change the way you look at it. Accept that you aren’t perfect and stop focusing on how you look – concentrate on what you do have. If you have a lot of spare time, take up a hobby – spend some time getting your mind off your problems. There are so many ways to improve yourself – just find the one that suits you. It is about learning to take responsibility for your life – and that is the only way that you will achieve real success.