One of the biggest questions about human beings and their psychology is what is self-esteem. It may be defined as one’s feeling of being worthy to the same degree as other people do, or of having worth as a human being. It may also mean a person’s ability to set priorities, to set standards and to evaluate oneself as worthy of success or as not worthy of success. Whatever it takes to put it simply, self-esteem is basically how we see ourselves.
It helps us make sense of our world. Self-esteem also helps us learn to control our impulses, to be in control of our lives, and to act responsibly in front of others. That means that we need to pay attention to how we act and react in front of others, and we also need to recognize when we are being selfish or when we are being kind. When we can manage our emotions well, that means we will be calmer in our actions and more deliberate about what we do. We will have more control over ourselves. It is an essential part of who we are.
How we feel about ourselves affects almost everything we do. That is why if you feel bad about yourself, you will tend to do less well in life. If you feel good about yourself, or if you are trying to improve your self-esteem, then you will be more likely to succeed.
A key element to improving your self-esteem is to accept that you don’t know everything and that you need others to tell you the truth. That may sound harsh, but it is absolutely true. If you had been raised by parents who told you that you were worthless, that you were a sick, poor, stupid child, that you would never amount to anything, that you should be ashamed of yourself, that other people were better off without them, then you might think differently. You would most likely act differently, because you would believe that you are better than that.
It is very easy to get angry about the things that happen to us. Anger, though is often necessary for our survival, can sometimes be a bad thing. When we get upset about something, we feel that our lives are under threat. This causes us to withhold nutrition, sleep, love, energy and happiness. We feel that we could be better people if we just let go of the anger.
The solution is to just forgive yourself and forget about it. It is not helpful to continue to tell yourself that you are worthless. The truth is, the things that make you feel bad are not the ones that are really important to you. You deserve to be happy and healthy.
There is something amazing that has happened in our world. We now have tools that are better than ever at erasing negative beliefs and replacing them with positive beliefs. Those of us who have learned how to use these tools can now feel better about ourselves. We have new attitudes and we can use those to achieve the things that were once out of reach. These are the things that help to raise our self-esteem.
If you find that you are holding yourself back because you do not believe that you are good enough, then you should start to learn all about how you can change your attitude. Start with forgiving yourself. Then find better ways to forgive yourself. Do not underestimate yourself, as they say; you can become an amazing person. Do something amazing this week and reclaim your self-esteem today.