What is self-esteem? This is a frequently asked question, because it is so important to our sense of self worth and worthiness. It really does matter – one’s level of self-worth can affect a person’s actions and interpersonal relationships. Let’s explore some facts surrounding what this “little black book” is all about.
Self-esteem refers to a person’s personal assessment of themselves, their value, and their worthiness. In psychological theory, it is the foundation of a healthy self-concept, or a persons’ initial positive impression of his or her self. Self-concept is closely related to self-efficacy, which is the thought that one’s level of ability is sufficient to meet the needs and requirements of others. Thus, self-esteem and self-efficacy are closely intertwined.
In this regard, self-esteem can help us manage and improve many areas of our lives. It can help us to build and develop effective skills, it can help us to develop positive interpersonal relationships, and it can even help us to manage and deal with various types of stress and challenge. Self-perception and self-confidence are closely intertwined, too. When we believe that we have what it takes to do a particular task, or if we believe that we are competent to solve difficult problems and to handle various challenging situations, then we have the potential to act and respond in a more assertive and successful manner. These are just some of the ways that self-esteem can help us to achieve our goals and to get what we want out of life.
As previously mentioned, self-perception and self-confidence are closely intertwined. If we think that we have the potential to do something, or if we feel that we have certain strengths, then we usually have a healthy self-image. And a healthy self-image is one of the key elements to developing and maintaining a positive attitude, as well. One of the best ways to keep our positive outlook intact is to always remind ourselves of our positive strengths and weaknesses. By reminding ourselves of our strengths, we make ourselves more likely to recognize and take advantage of opportunities that may come our way.
Self-awareness and self-confidence are also closely intertwined. If we know that we have strengths and weaknesses, but we are trying to convince someone else of a specific strength or weakness, then we are likely to be unsuccessful. One of the most effective ways to make yourself more believable is to use believable statements. A believable statement includes the following: “I am an outgoing and friendly person,” or “I am very hardworking.” When you are making statements about your own strengths and weaknesses, you have to remember to carefully choose the words that you are saying so that they don’t sound too repetitive. For example, if you tell someone that you are a hardworking person, but you admit that you are not very social, then people will be likely to think that you are lying or exaggerating just to be able to boast of your hard work.
To increase your self-worth, you have to start believing in yourself. In addition, you need to develop your self-respect. The first step to building your self-respect is to become more confident. This is easier said than done, but if you want to build your self-respect then you need to begin to believe in yourself and have realistic self-image and self-worth. For example, if you tell yourself over again that you are a valuable person, then it will become a habit and soon you will begin to believe in that statement.
Overly critical people tend to lower their self-esteem by focusing on the negative things about themselves, rather than focusing on the positive things about themselves. For example, if you tell yourself everyday that you are worthless, then eventually your self-image will become extremely low. However, if you start focusing on the positive aspects of yourself and start seeing yourself as someone worth something, then your overall self-worth and self-image will begin to increase. If you constantly tell yourself that you are a useless person, then this will have an effect on your self-confidence and self-image. It is important that you learn how to be overly critical of yourself in order to help you improve your healthy self-esteem and self-respect.
When you get into these negative feedback loops, which can happen if you are working in an environment where there is a lot of criticism, you will start to experience what is known as procrastination. Procrastination is the loss of a desired goal because of being too busy focusing on the “unknown area.” If you are in a team environment where there are hundreds of projects and deadlines to meet, you are bound to experience this. However, this does not mean that you should never let others view you negatively, but you should use this time to observe and take note of the things that they are saying about you and change those things that are negative to a positive and more helpful feedback loop. This is the foundation for building healthy and positive relationships with others.