It seems to me that many people have the idea that there is a clear winner – “Ego” vs. “Self-esteem.” But the truth is, there is no clear winner; rather, there are two sides that must be balanced for you to win. And ego can play an important role in this. Let me explain.
Ego is defined as the perspective you take on yourself. Your level of “ego” comes from your personal perception of who you are. Your level of “ego” also has a lot to do with what others think of you – what they’ve said about you and what they haven’t said about you. It’s also affected by how much you want to be liked, how much you strive to please and how much time you’re willing to spend working on yourself. All these things will determine your level of “ego.”
So ego will play a part in self-esteem. However, you don’t need to like yourself in order to be successful. Just like a child, you have to learn to give up some things to achieve your goals. This doesn’t mean, however, that you have to give up everything you’ve achieved – your successes should simply mean that you’ve become a better person. And the best way to become a better person is by becoming better at accepting and liking who you are.
How do you know when to surrender? In life, there are times when you have to let go. When the going gets tough, or when someone is treating you badly or sabotaging your plans, you have to get rid of your ego and surrender to the flow of life. Instead of holding yourself back, why not just leap right in? By doing so, you’ll find that you become much more effective and efficient. This will also give you a better appreciation for the people around you.
Ego can also keep you from taking risks. A lot of people put themselves down because they believe that they are too good to fail. If you are used to always feeling as though you’re at a disadvantage, you may be holding yourself back from taking bigger risks. On the other hand, if you let go and try something new, you might discover that it was actually quite advantageous. If you are afraid of failing, you won’t take chances – and that means that you won’t live life to its fullest.
Self-esteem also prevents you from loving yourself enough. People with low self-esteem tend to focus so much on their flaws that they forget to compliment themselves. They also think too much about what others think of them, which prevents them from being happy with themselves and living out their potential. Instead, they tend to focus too much on their fears and insecurities – and while this does allow them to feel better about who they are, it does not make them a better person.
Lastly, low self-esteem can prevent people from appreciating the good things that have happened to them. People with high self-esteem often take the good things in their lives for granted. They don’t feel as if they deserve all the good things that life has to offer, and so they don’t take the time to celebrate their success. Instead, they focus on their problems and failures, and they spend most of their time complaining and brooding over things that aren’t going their way.
If you want to be a better person, you have to start believing in yourself first. Even if you have to put some effort into building your self-esteem, you will see results faster. You will also be happier with yourself and more content with your life. So start boosting your self-esteem today!